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“Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back everything is different?”
― C.S. Lewis
In the last 12 months, we’ve seen many nervous first dates; exciting third dates; relationships going south; and of course – the much-desired happy ending (pun intended). However, many folks are left with the daunting realization that they are still single.
In a world where we now rely only on instant gratification, Netflix and logic, there’s also fate and luck to play such a huge role in what is to come (if only you’d believe it, old friend). Time, place and opportunity (especially allowing yourself to experience it) make pretty much everything.
Here is our list of believe-it-or-nots. Trust, believe, and affirm – and 2019 will be yours.
January: Embrace the new
Great highs, the really low lows, are all part of the journey – be it a toxic friendship that no longer serves its purpose, or a shitty break-up that crushed your soul. Understand this: Six months from now, everything will seem different.
February: Thoughts become reality
As responsible adulting Millenials and Xennials, we tend to think of the worst. Positive thoughts attract positive developments – and naturally, the opposite is also very true. You’d be surprised to learn how much it can impact your state of being.
March: We repeat what we don’t repair
Life will throw you curve balls; and you will hit or miss. So get up, dust yourself and you move on. Most people carry severe baggage with them all the time. The best that you deserve must first come from yourself.
April: The grass is greener where you water it
On a bad day, your married colleague will advise you to “never get married”. Don’t let the journeys of others rattle you – every relationship, goal or dream needs work, so ignore what everyone else is saying and doing – focus on yours.
May: See it for what it is, not what you want it to be
The future of love is acceptance. While the strengths are easy to embrace, the shortcomings of your partner usually aren’t. Set realistic expectations from your significant other, and your other relationships in general.
June: Stop hitting the snooze button
Quality moments with family, pursuing that diving certification or that much-needed vacation – when do you plan to do it? The time is now, so learn to live in the moment. Trust us, you don’t want to wake up with regrets in 2020.
July: Put others above yourself
New York Times best-selling author Stephen Pressfield offers his gem of wisdom: “None of us wants to hear your self-centered, ego-driven, unrefined demands for attention. Why should we? It’s boring. There’s nothing in it for us.” We couldn’t have said it better.
August: Live in the moment
In the process of becoming, don’t forget to be. Look up from your screen and enjoy real experiences. Talk to a stranger on the train. Browse through new books. Savor a cup of coffee at your favourite café – without checking emails.
September: Focus on health
This one should pretty much be your goal all year round. Sweat it out and work for the body that you’ve dreamed of; let those endorphins run wild. Because the mind and body are so closely linked, the state of wellness of one naturally affects the other.
October: You don’t have to do everything yourself
For many of us who are fiercely independent (and think we’re awesome), sometimes it’s okay to accept that you can’t. Trust someone else at work when it comes to delegation, learn to say no to requests and situations that you’re uncomfortable with.
November: Out with the old, in with the new
We’re constantly changing, evolving, and diverting our life course. Learn a new creative skill that you can’t wait to practice, revamp that wardrobe, get a new haircut, etc. Open your mind (and heart) to new journeys, people and beginnings.
December: Slow down
Take the time to hydrate, wean off work, spend time with loved ones, reflect and reward yourself. As Paul Dolan, a professor of Behavioral describes the PPP (Pleasure Purpose Principle), “To be truly happy, you need to feel both pleasure and purpose. And you may require each to different degrees at different times. But you do need to feel both.”
Words by Team Sirf Coffee
